- Listen. Breathe. Be fascinated by the journey of the person who sits across from you.
- Learn from the client what he/she wants. If you are unsure about what the client says, try to clarify.
If the client is unsure, suggest a direction and ask if it is okay.
Remember: “It’s your life, my dear client.”
Don’t rush in to fix, to solve. Help the client relate to the issue. Help the client discover more about it.
- Be empathically curious, explore the issue:
- Learn about it: its history, how it works . . .
- What are the client’s wishes in regard to it?
- Notice if the issue involves a subpersonality or two (and perhaps facilitate dialogue between the person and a subpersonality, or between two subpersonalities.
- Trust . . . that if you care, are interested, help the client discover herself, she will take the next step with this issue . . . therefore you don’t need to fix.
- Remember . . . you have no idea where this is going to go. This is a creative process. It will unfold in ways in which you might have never imagined.
You are the facilitator of the client’s unfolding, of her creation. You are not the creator of your client.
Remember: Beginner’s mind.
- Don’t be too shy to say, “I’m not sure where to go right now. Do you have a hunch about the best way to proceed?”
- Remember . . . Spirit is in charge. Ask Spirit to help you be with your client, even during the session (silently to yourself).