Stage 3, Contact with Self

As we have an increasingly clear sense of the many levels of ourselves, and assume the responsibility of actualizing these levels, we are led naturally to questions of direction. Now that we can express ourselves authentically, what is important to express? Now that we have the wherewithal to create, what is important to create? What seems to be my call in life, my path, my direction? In psychosynthesis terms, this is asking for a more intimate, conscious relationship with Self, or what is called, Self-realization. Assagioli called this stage, “Realization of One’s True Self,” and we here call this the stage of Contact with Self or the Contact Stage.

Again, it seems clear that the prior progression from the stage of Survival, to Exploration, to Emergence, is a logical prelude to contact with deeper levels of our being. But this logical progression is not quite as neat and orderly as all that.



The invitations from Self—the transpersonal will—can be discerned even in these earlier stages. Many, looking back over their path, recognize that they were hearing a call from their deeper truth and authenticity throughout their journey.

Enacting this openness to Self can take many forms, but invariably it will involve being in relationship with people, places, and things which support asking ultimate questions. These might include such things as entering into dialogue with different systems of morality and ethics; praying and meditating regularly; listening carefully to messages from nocturnal dreams; learning about different religions and theologies; frequenting places we consider sacred; taking time in retreat and solitude; undertaking a vision quest or pilgrimage; and finding a mentor, intimate friend, or community who supports our relationship to Self. All such environments, which have been called authentic unifying centers (The Primal Wound and Psychosynthesis by Firman and Gila), work to expand a sense of relationship to Self and refine the ability to hear the call of Self.